Let’s talk a little about him….
As stated in my first post we already knew each other but it had been years since we talked. Even before this we weren’t intimate he just always had this crush on me in college. I on the other hand was dating someone and in a serious relationship, and didn’t even realize he had a crush.
My life has always been interesting I have moved a billion times, lived in interesting places, and just been free flowing. He asked questions and was very in tuned with what I was saying. He texted me all day from sun up to sun down and I never had to question that he was interested.
Where was his wife?
From my understanding his wife was home and he didn’t sleep in the bed with her. Classic married man lie, right? I’m not sure and I really didn’t ask many questions about her. All I knew is that she was pregnant and probably was always sleep. We spent the most time together during her pregnancy. Which now I am remorseful for because I know how lonely it can get being pregnant and hormonal.
Anyways, we spent time hanging out with each other doing fun outdoors activities. We would golf, go running, have drinks, go to the strip clubs. We just enjoyed each others company and I am real laid back so I am always down for anything. I ended up meeting his brother, cousin, and a friend. Which to be honest I wasn’t sure if we should have introduced me to friends and family. I say this because in the long run if we were to be in a real relationship. I honestly didn’t want the stigma of being his mistress. Needless to say our relationship kinda blossomed and we both became comfortable with meeting each others friends.
This past July things took a turn for the worse and I threatened him…..
I threatened to tell his wife about us. We had a very big fight and name calling took place (per usual) and I was very upset. I don’t condone my actions because you know your place as a side chick. You don’t threaten your man and you definitely don’t make empty threats.
He came clean to her about his year long affair and he went missing for a few days. I don’t know what transpired or why he decided to tell her. He claims it was the best decision he had made in a long time, and if you have figured out my personality you would know I didn’t ask why. Maybe, it was the best decision for him because he finally wasn’t hiding what he was doing, or maybe because he finally could let her know he was not happy. Regardless we both went missing and still have not seen each other since the day I threatened him.
You would think he would have never called again or that he would hate me. That is not the case. I am not sure what to make of that but he doesn’t hate me and he still seems to be very much in love. I on the other hand have been trying to move on, because he still is married and hasn’t discussed divorce with me.